I have 4 weeks off, due to the corona virus. My adoptive Mom said, “I’d like to be able to use you”. I don’t want to be used, by her, or anyone. Just because I’m home, it does not mean I’m now an inanimate object, to be used by anyone.
I will help her, but I’d like to be asked. Maybe this has always been the dynamic between us, and the reason we’ve always been at odds. She thinks I’m a thing, to be used, and I think I’m an autonomous person, with free will, and needs and desires of my own, apart from her.
Stay safe, everyone. Draw close to the ones you love.
“I’d like to be able to use you.” I have to wonder how she wants you to be used. No one wants to be used! I don’t know what she meant but it’s a terribly unfortunate use of words. Possibly some adopted persons were used to fill up an empty space, maybe to keep a marriage together (in some instances). We natural mothers feel used too. Our bodies were used to fulfill a couple’s need for a newborn.