I think my birth parents are my parents, not my adoptive parents.
I do not think I’m related to my adoptive parents at all. I can’t understand how I can be expected to believe unrelated strangers are my family. I was raised by, and around my adoptive family, but I never,ever thought, or wished that I was related to any of them.
They’re OK people. Not too bright, actually. My mother was much smarter. More damaged, for sure, but quick, in a way the adopters are not. Mom & I both have large vocabularies. A-mom, not so much.
It’s not a popular point of view, but it’s one I just cannot shake.
No one likes it. My adoptive family think it’s wrong, because my A-parents raised me, and I should see them as my parents. My birth family doesn’t like it. I’m not sure how they feel about it, but it seems they don’t consider me a relative, and wish I would just vanish. Which I have. I have little contact with my natural family, 7 years after reunion.
We may have no contact, but they are still my relatives. No matter what everyone else believes.
Are there any others out there like me, who do not understand how we’re supposed to believe strangers are our families? Please let me know how it is for you.